Hi, I have just joined a few adoption communities because my partner and I have recently decided to adopt. I am in a same sex relationship and we have been together for five years. I am 37 and my partner 42. I have been trying to get pregnant for the last year and half. We were using a known donor and trying through artificial insemination. About 6 months ago, I was diagnosed with endrometroisis. I have had many tests in the last few months and the fertility clinic feels that I only have a 5% chance of getting pregnant. They were pushing for invitro. We decided against invitro due to the large costs and low chances of having a successful pregnancy. We decided we would rather adopt. We both really want to be parents. We are very limited to the places we can adopt due to being lesbian. We meet with the agency next week, but we will be trying for a local adoptin (which is difficult because there are not a lot of babies available in Canada) and we are applying for the states. We have been told that are best bet is to apply for an african american baby. It doesn't matter to us what the race or sex of the child is, we just want to love and raise a child. We are starting to read as much as we can about raising a child of a different race. We are not even sure yet that any agencies will accept us and we may have to try to adopt as a single. We have a lot of challenges in front of us, and we are very nervous, but also very excited. I look forward to hearing all your stories, and any words of wisdom of advice would be greatly appreciated.
x-posted to cc_adoption, adopted_parent,and adoption