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  2009.02.02  22.07
Network for Roma (Gypsies) and part-Roma who were adopted


There's a new website and listserv for children (teens, probably) and adults who have Romani heritage and were adopted by non-Roma.


(There's a separate group for adoptive parents: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/karfin)


  2008.08.19  14.24
MTV True Life

Hey guys -

I hope you do not mind me posting in this community. I am a casting agent for MTV: True Life and I just want to let you know that we're currently looking to cast an episode called True Life: I'm Looking For My Sibling. We're exploring many different angles of sibling separation, one of those being adoption. If anyone is currently looking for their sibling and is interested in participating in this documentary, please let me know. You can contact me at sibling@mtvn.com or (212) 654-4992.


MTV True Life


  2007.12.01  23.00
Group for families with Romany (Gypsy) children

x-posted ferociously, sorry
Hello, I may have posted something like this before, but I've lost my list...

I am a Romany woman from the Czech Republic. My husband and I have two children through adoption. I volunteer for a support group that helps foster and adoptive families with Romany children. I am starting an English-language e-mail list for adoptive families with Romany kids (full, half, or whatever), and I thought European adoption people would be interested, since most children coming out of Bulgaria, Romania and some other countries are at least half-Romany. I think it's quite difficult, especially for Americans, to find reliable information about Romany communities, while at the same time it can be very important for adoptees to connect with their ethnic heritage. I'd like to provide cultural information and role-model contacts where possible, and to facilitate a network for us parents and, eventually, for our children. Please send me your e-mail address ASAP if you're interested, and please pass on to others as appropriate.

Thank you,


  2007.03.04  03.18

Hi everybody!
I just joined this community tonight. I was looking through adoption communities and was excited to find this one. My name is Trang (Tran) and I'm seventeen years old. I was born in Vietnam and lived there until I was five in foster care with my younger brother. Then I was adopted by an American couple and moved to the states. I fully support international adoption :].

One issue for me and my brother is that our parents are uncomfortable with the idea of us learning more about Vietnam and/or communicating with our biological parents. I would love to get in touch with my native culture, but whenever I tell my mom that she tells me my culture is American. I try to reassure her that it's not going to separate us, but she gets really upset. Why is she upset and is she right? Should I just leave it be?

When we were younger, we got a lot of stares and questions, but growing up in the Pacific Northwest, there wasn't much racism about the adoption. It was more of a - "Are those your parents? Why are they white?" kind of thing.

So, this is kind of pointless, but if you have any questions about anything, feel free to ask!

- Trang


  2007.01.18  11.39

what is a good fundraiser etiquette? if you ask someone once, is it ok to ask them again later? this is going to be a long term thing for us to raise what we need and quite frankly our resources are low. we live in a very small town and only one of us works - and that one person isn't too thrilled about asking people for their money. not to mention, we just moved here not long ago and don't have a whole lot of friends yet. i'm sure i could send things to our parents to help out at their jobs too. but i'm just wondering if someone helps once, is it ok to ask them again later to help again? and how frequently should you ask for help?


  2006.07.14  20.51
Fund Raising

My husband and I are planning on adopting several times, but we're struggling with the large cost of international adoption and the loans available will only cover, at most, 50% of the cost. We still have a good amount of time before we begin our home study, but we have started a fund raising project online and could really use some help spreading the word about it.

This is a magazine selling site, 100% of the profits go into a special adoption savings account to gain interest. If you'd like to buy/renew a magazine please consider doing it through us, if you can (or if you buy a magazine as a gift).

If you would like to help us *please please please* CLICK HERE

You can opt to either buy magazines or refer other people to buy magazines from us (if you refer 12 people over they say you'll get a free movie ticket, but please check the website for the exact details).

Thank you in advance for your help.


  2005.08.09  08.14
Not her birthmother....

Hi All.

My little girl was adopted by a fantastic couple through an open adoption 5 years ago, and I'm relatively close to the entire family. (Sorry, bad pun). Her parents returned from China with their new 1 year old in June. Things are going wonderfully for them thus far.

Angela, their mom, is worried, though, that since I have such close ties to Katarina, that their new daughter, Avery, who knows nothing about her birthparents, will feel jealous/resentful/bitter/left-out of some key things that I am able to offer Katarina. She asked me to kind of "step-up" and play somewhat of the birthmother role for Avery, as much as any random woman could.

My question is, do any of you have contact with one child's birthparents but not the others? Any suggestions on what I could do to make things run more smoothly for their family? Any ideas on what would be appropriate for my relationship with Avery are welcome.


  2005.08.05  14.52
Finally: Word from the new Mod.

Hi folks! My name is Ryan Greene and I am the new moderator here at the CC Adoption community.

My Background: I am the father of an adorable Korean Adoptee, and am interested in learning from both Adoptees and parents who have adopted about their experiences. Good, bad, what could be done better. I understand that there are some folks who in the past have not been interested in having any kind of constructive dialog on this subject. All I can say is: Take your issues elsewhere. I need to learn more about how to be a good Dad, and I'm sure there are people here who can teach me just that. Intelligent people can disagree and move on. Idiots need to flame to get their point across.

That said, I look forward to hearing and learning with you all!


  2005.07.24  16.44

This community will be deleted in about ten days unless a new moderator is found. There is a similar community called worldadopt that you may want to join. And daisy_camille, just so you know, I'm not a member there.


  2005.07.20  15.46
New mod wanted

This community is actively looking for a new moderator. Duties are light. If you are interested, please e-mail me.


  2005.06.15  22.01

Do you think having a sibling of the same race and/or culture will help your child while growing up?


  2005.05.27  10.59
Study on international adoption

The Associated Press recently published an article about a study which appeared in JAMA showing that internationally adopted children do well in their new countries.
Graph charting U.S. adoptions of foreign-born childrenCollapse )
(JAMA = Journal of the American Medical Association)


  2005.05.17  11.20
Operation Babylift: News Article

Here is an Associated Press article that I found interesting. Link from the Washington Post includes photos.

Vietnam 'Babylift' Orphans Set to Return

The Associated Press
Sunday, May 15, 2005; 5:47 PM

ALPHARETTA, Ga. -- Tanya Bakal has spent much of her life running from Nguyen Thu Kim Phung. Three decades ago, she left that name in Vietnam, along with her biological mother and her culture, when she was airlifted out as part of the wartime "Operation Babylift." Next month, she hopes to find them all.

Bakal's search will take her more than 9,200 miles away to Saigon, now renamed Ho Chi Minh City, with 19 other orphans from the first wave of the effort that eventually brought more than 3,000 Vietnamese children to the United States.

They don't speak the language, many of their names have changed and some _ including Bakal _ don't even know their real birthdays.

"Everyone has a beginning," said Bakal, who believes she is 31. "I want to find mine."
Continued ...Collapse )


  2005.04.24  13.33

Posted on two_worlds.

Foreigners in the Land of Their Birth


  2005.04.23  16.18

This is just a reminder that this community is for discussing cross-cultural adoption. That includes all international and interracial adoption.

I assumed that it went without saying that racist comments and race-baiting are not welcome here. I assumed wrong.

Please rest assured that users who make such posts will be immediately banned, so we shouldn't have ongoing problems here. Thanks!

Your friendly maintainer, bluetoro


  2005.04.13  21.29

The community two_worlds is for and by Korean adoptees. As the mom of an adopted Korean boy, I lurk there to get an idea of what it might be like for him someday. There has been more than one post about a book called Somebody's Daughter by Marie Myung-Ok Lee. I'm planning to read it.


  2005.03.16  22.29

I made a community for nativeamericans and I hope that all that are interested come and check it out! Thanks.


  2005.03.05  10.56

Hi all,

I am in the begining stages of a Korean Adoption. We just started our Home Study and I have been reading and looking stuff up on the internet like a crazy person lol.

I just started an adoption journal. Feel free to read it and comment. I am looking for friends who are going through similar situations.

Hope you all have a great day!



  2005.02.22  16.14

Hi, I have just joined a few adoption communities because my partner and I have recently decided to adopt. I am in a same sex relationship and we have been together for five years. I am 37 and my partner 42. I have been trying to get pregnant for the last year and half. We were using a known donor and trying through artificial insemination. About 6 months ago, I was diagnosed with endrometroisis. I have had many tests in the last few months and the fertility clinic feels that I only have a 5% chance of getting pregnant. They were pushing for invitro. We decided against invitro due to the large costs and low chances of having a successful pregnancy. We decided we would rather adopt. We both really want to be parents. We are very limited to the places we can adopt due to being lesbian. We meet with the agency next week, but we will be trying for a local adoptin (which is difficult because there are not a lot of babies available in Canada) and we are applying for the states. We have been told that are best bet is to apply for an african american baby. It doesn't matter to us what the race or sex of the child is, we just want to love and raise a child. We are starting to read as much as we can about raising a child of a different race. We are not even sure yet that any agencies will accept us and we may have to try to adopt as a single. We have a lot of challenges in front of us, and we are very nervous, but also very excited. I look forward to hearing all your stories, and any words of wisdom of advice would be greatly appreciated.

x-posted to
cc_adoption, adopted_parent,and adoption


  2005.02.21  16.31

Welcome to Cross-Cultural Adoption. This community was created for support and conversation about cross-cultural adoptions and foster care, including international adoption and interracial adoption.

If you want more information about this community or links to similar communities, refer to this community's User Info. You can e-mail me with any questions. Membership is open to everyone, whether affected by a cross-cultural adoption or just interested in the topic.